all the curly-haired girls

I have super curly hair. I think I’ve mentioned that before.

Well, I’ve straightened my hairs for a job interview & for new job. And have been continuing to straighten it for work. The simple truth is that it’s easier in the morning to get ready. For my new job, I have to be up at 6am, & AT WORK around 7:45-8am. I can take a shower in 8 mins flat if my hair is straight (w/ a shower cap); 12 mins tops. Then another 5 mins to style it.

If it’s curly, it takes anywhere from 22 mins (shortest shower time) to 45 mins (not max, but around that) to shower. Then another 15-20 mins to style, and like 3 hours before it’s dry (because I can’t use a hair dryer on curly hair).

I used to start work at 9:30am. I’m at my new job around 7:45-8am everyday.

Hence, it made sense to simply straighten my hair daily.

However, my cousin said something to me that made me think twice about it. She mentioned that she (a curly-haired sister), has 2 curly-haired girls, and they “see” what I do. Whether overtly or if it goes into their subconscious. I don’t want them thinking they need to not be who they are naturally. I want them to love themselves as they are, without wanting to change.aunt neice

It made me remember that what each of us do, no matter how small, is always seen by someone else. I made sure they got how much I loved their natural hair, and how lucky they were to have it. 🙂

disclosure issues

So, Mr. T & I are going to (eventually) have a child. I emphasize the ‘eventually’ b/c I don’t want anyone getting any ideas; it’s prob not going to be for another 4-5 years. But the day will come.

Here’s the thing, we’ve had the baby names talk, & picked out 2 really chill names (1 boy name, 1 girl name). And no, I can’t tell you what they are.

We’ve had the talk about when to tell ppl. I mentioned to him once that I’d read online that day that you’re not supposed to disclose that your all knocked-up until after your 1st trimester. I think it comes from the olden days when women were more likely to have a problem & possibly miscarry. If no one knows, then no one will be able to put hexes on your unborn child… or something like that.

He said that he wouldn’t be able to hold it in, & that we’d def have to tell some close fam. I think I’m ok w/ telling the parents, but swearing them to secrecy until we make the actual announcement.

Now, the reason I bring up all this is b/c we had another conversation about this topic last weekend. I think it was last Sat night. We’re usually out until late on Sat nights, we get home around 5:30 am (yes, that’s very typical for us)*, & then stay up until around 8 am talking & watching the sun come up. We live across the street from a beach (it’s a 3 min walk); & we sit out on the balcony talking about all sorts of stuff.

Anyway, the topic of pics came up. He wants us to send out those “1st pics”. You know, the kind they take at a hospital. I’ve never been a big fan of the “super-newborn” picture. I just don’t know; it just doesn’t seem right to me. I can’t explain it. Well, ok I can. But I will seriously come off like an insensitive bee-otch if I do. I could spin it around, & be all like, oh the baby just went through the trauma of birth, we should leave it alone, & not stick a cam in it’s face. But we all know that’s not really why.

Now, I’m going to totally contradict myself here, & say that I do like getting those “birth announcements” in the mail. But that’s mainly so that I can get the stats on the kid; you know, like on a baseball card. I’d be totally fine w/ a birth announcement that didn’t have a pic of the newborn on it. But I am ok w/ the kind w/ the pic of the newborn. But that’s only one pic. I don’t want to see a whole photo album of just borney-ness. Does that make sense? No? Well, let me take this moment to remind you all that I am often not very rational.

So, the thing is, I never planned on sending out pics of my newborn (again, ppl, when it happens, years from now). I saw what CrazyCruise & KatieCruise did last year w/ that pretty lil Suri. That was marketing GENIUS! Now, I’m not trying to market my baby. But let’s face it, babies look WAAAAY cuter at 6 months than they do as newborns.

So, my plan was to not disclose any pics of my baby until she (or he) was about 6 months. I think I’m fighting an uphill battle. This aforementioned “logic” cannot be explained to Mr. T.

*in fact, we got home last night at 4:30 am, & it was a Thursday night; & I’m at work today.

PhotoFriday #9: boy

As many of you know, I am an aunt. I make a super-great aunt at that. I love all my nieces & nephews; & I love them all equally. No, really, I do. You know how sometimes you get mad at a fam member? Well, I still love my kids. They shouldn’t have to suffer, or feel neglected just b/c you’re mad at their mom or dad. I adore them, really.

I guess I really feel this way about almost all children. Except the punks; I wanna smack them upside the head, & their little ‘rents too cause they didn’t do a good job raising them. But I do feel a connection to all kids. Like once I was at the library, & I saw this (middle-aged, creepy) guy approach a little (about 5 year old) kid. I knew the guy wasn’t related, so I just hung around the area so he wouldn’t try to get too close to the kid (who was just playing in the kids section by himself). The children’s section librarian saw me standing there & gave me a questioning look to see if I needed any help, & I motioned toward the creepy-guy. She went up to the kid, & asked him where his mom was, & then took his hand & went off to find her together. So, I felt like I could leave then. I also get mad when I see lil kids in cars w/ no car-seat, or older (but still lil) kids in the front seat w/ no seat belt. Aaauuugghhh! :shakes fist at parents allowing this:

Anyway, back to the subject at hand. As you all know by now, I’m pretty protective of puttin up personal/private pics up here online for all the internets to see. BUT, I remembered that I had a pic of 2 of my nephews goofing off when we went for a walk one day. I was watching these two lil cuties that day, & man, were they itching to go out. I did let them go on the jungle gym & swings for a little bit, but it was hot, & I was too scared that they’d get all dehydrated. I’m a huge scaredy-cat, really.

So, it got to be late-afternoon, & it was cooling off, & not as humid, so the boys jumped at the chance of gettin to go out of the house. We went for a walk, but I told them they had to wear their hats to shield/protect them from a sun just a lil. See? I told you, I’m just so paranoid & scared of so much stuff.

So, they were like; “You want us to wear our hats? How about like this, is this all right? Can we wear them like this?” All while giggling & being silly. They’re so cute. Of course, I was like; “[gasp], OH NO, you’re gonna trip & fall, you two are scaring me, you have to watch where you’re going”. So, of course they stopped goofing off, & wore them on there heads after. But they are so cute. Oh, & they fit this week’s PhotoFriday category: “boy”. Here’s the pic I snapped of them:You can see other boys by clicking here to see everyone else’s PhotoFriday submission. Have a great Friday, y’all!!!

what’s on your lap?

Hi y’all. Miss me? I know I’ve been gone for a while; just had a lot going on, & couldn’t really write about any of it. It’s funny, out of all my friends, there’s two of us who’ve started blog-sites. And both of us are the most reclusive ppl you’ll ever meet. The other one used to post a bunch, but now it’s once a month or so. I’ll be posting more now. Well, not now-now, but soon. And remember last December, when I only posted once during the whole entire month? Well, that prob won’t happen this year. I am just so super-busy in the fall/winter season, so I was totally ambushed, & didn’t have a really good internet connection, so I just didn’t post that much.

But, I’m waiting for a call… You see, I just BOUGHT A NEW LAPTOP!!!! I am just so bouncing off the walls about this. It’s super-cool, & has a dvd-burner, so I can make my OWN MOOOO-VIES.* Yes, you heard me right. My OWN movies, made by ME! Cool, huh? I KNOW! Oh, man, I absolutely cannot wait!!!

So, anyway, I’m waiting for my laptop to call me. You see, the store didn’t have any in stock of the puppy I wanted, so I had to special order it. And it’s gonna call me when it’s here & ready to be picked up. Just like having a kid, I think. I’m gonna consider this my training. I can’t believe how crazy I’m going waiting for it to call! I suspect it’ll be the same when my kid’s in high school at some punk’s house for a bonfire party, & I’m sitting at home waitin for the call to finally go pick him/her up. It’s prob gonna feel exactly the same as this anxiousness.

*um, it occurs to me that I always say mooo-vies, but most ppl don’t really know why I say it that way. (I do say a lot of things differently). So, I’m gonna let y’all in on exactly how corny I am. My nephew went through a phase where he would make up just a TON of jokes. It all started with this one joke:
Q: Why did the cow cross the road?
A: To get to the mooo-vies. Get it? Mooooooo-vies? Get it? Get it? Mooooooooo-vies!

You see, you have to add the “get it?, get it?” to the end. Well, it only escalated from there. Next thing you knew, if we were talking about our sister, lilies, he would be like:
“Why did lilies cross the road?”
“To get to the mooo-vies. Get it? Mooooooo-vies? Get it? Get it? Mooooooooo-vies!”

Then, we may be talking about what the kids want to eat for lunch & someone will say ‘chicken nuggets’, & next thing you know, you’re hearing his cutie lil voice question:
“Why did the chicken nuggets cross the road?”
“To get to the mooo-vies. Get it? Mooooooo-vies? Get it? Get it? Mooooooooo-vies!”

So, ever since then, regular movies have failed to exist, & it’s always been mooooo-vies.

PhotoFriday # 4: private

This pic was actually not taken by me. It was taken in late June 2005 by my (then) 4-yr old nephew, while he was visiting. But I thought it fit cause not too many ppl are allowed to be this close to me.And no, I wasn’t expecting him to take a pic. And yes, it did blind me momentarily. I know these last few PhotoFridays have been a little sucky, but I’ll do better. I just haven’t had much time, & so I’m just trying to find something that fits.

I haven’t posted in a while cause I’ve actually been away for the last few days. And of course, before you go away somewhere, you’re running around preparing to go away. But I’m back now. Have a TON of stuff to catch up on, but back.

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PhotoFriday #3: portrait

This week’s PhotoFriday challenge was “Portrait”. I have a few self-portraits I’ve done that I’m especially proud of, but alas, I’m not really feeling like sharing them w/ the world just yet. I will someday though. So, I was looking through what I can post for y’all from what I’ve already taken that is not of a person.

My 1st instinct was to take a picture of the construction workers that are sweating & toiling, & creating form & function out of raw materials that they are also hauling onto the site. Did I mention that they are also doing this in what will be a high of mid-90s today? W/ a heat index well over that. For the last few months, I have been so worried about these men & women out there. Worried that they are dehydrated & over-exerting themselves. Is it any of my business? No. Are they being well compensated for creating these amazing forms? Yes. So, w/ all that in mind, even though I think that construction workers are doing incredible things; I cannot bring myself to photograph their struggle throughout this hot/humid day & just post it for the world to see. I am not ready to post photos of real ppl, w/ real lives on this page. B/c I don’t feel it’s right, esp when I don’t really post a real photo of myself.*

So, I was thinking of what to put up, & I remembered the babies. These babies (click on pic to see enlarged version):
Last May (2005), my nephews found a birds’ nest in their jungle gym thingie. They were so concerned about these baby chickies, & checked up on them daily. When I talked to them on the phone, I heard all about them. Then, when I went to visit them, of course I was led outside to see the babies.

So, I’m sharing them w/ you. In that pic, they are very hungry & awaiting mamma to return w/ the goods. The goods being worms & bugs, of course. 😉

I love how they’re all just reaching up & above towards the sky. They’re all stretched & waiting for nourishment.

Here’s a couple other shots of the babies. The 1st is a profile & the 2nd is looking down on them from above. You can click on either to enlarge, of course.

*I say ‘real photo’ b/c I did post a pic of me in that profile thingie, but it’s only like a third of my face, so I’m still partially hidden.

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