Joke or offensive? Women problems.

Ok, I need input on something that happened yesterday.

I went to a religious service yesterday. Before the service started, a member of the clergy had the mic & was promoting a special marriage-strengthening event they were hosting. He was just going over the basics, registration info and deadline was approaching. Then, he closed with a joke:

Just to be clear, this is for your WIFE. I’m looking at some of you out there…. 

to which the response from the congregation was laughter.

It was a joke, after all. This offended me. My question is: Should it have?

sexist is wrongMy point was that his joke implies that some of these men have a wife AND a girlfriend. And this was a man of God, speaking in the house of God. And by his acknowledging that men there have a wife and a gf, it *validates* this behavior. A man of God is validating the behavior of the destruction of a *union of God*. This is how I saw it. And I saw it as so incredibly disrespectful to dismiss this UNGODLY behavior as a joke (number 1).

Then, number 2, I was offended that the congregation laughed at this. And it hit me that this is because this type of joke is normalized SO MUCH that no one blinks at them. They are accepted & acceptable. I feel that I was completely in the right to be offended, and others should also be offended, but since it’s normalized, they won’t be. Until their eyes are opened.

Now, here’s what I was told: I was told that this is just part of the culture, and is a joke. And maybe I don’t get it because I’m not of the culture. That the clergy member meant it as “don’t do this”, but said it in a joke way for everyone. And that everyone is fine with it, and I shouldn’t be offended.

So, my question is, should I have been offended?

Now, I have to say, what was said to me: that I don’t understand the culture, that everyone from the culture is ok with it and gets it. They get that it’s not offensive. These seem like all the same arguments that proponents of the Confederate Flag use.

press 1 for English

You know how people get all worked up about “press 1 for English”? I see it all the time, posts on facebook complaining about this. Well, most of these posts express anger at those who’d rather hear a different language in their IVR interaction.

A couple of things about that. These are people who likely speak more than one language, and most of the people angry about it only speak English. Is it like some type of envy? That they’re jealous that they don’t have other options because they never learned another language? But instead it’s coming out like displaced anger?

The other thought I had is that they shouldn’t get mad at these people. They should be mad at the companies. It’s the companies that put the recording on. If they don’t think companies should be putting “press one for English”, they need to express that to the company doing it.

Actually, their thought is probably that “American companies shouldn’t be doing this”, or that “This is America, we speak English here”.

But guess what? There is a trend of profiting American companies that are moving their base overseas to avoid American taxes. Why aren’t more people mad at them?

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No Moore in Alabama

Roy Moore is the Chief Justice of the Alabama Supreme Court. He’s also an idiot (in my opinion). Why you ask? Because yesterday he said that even though the Federal Court found same-sex marriage bans unconstitutional, the State is not bound by that.

This is the same idiot who, in 2003, was removed from his place as Chief Justice because he insisted that they needed a 5000 pound granite sculpture, 3 ft by 3 ft by 4 ft tall, with the 10 Commandments on it.

Apparently, he never learned about the separation of church and state. That’s like Politics 101.

Anyway, so now he’s all for this same-sex marriage ban. Which, you all know, infuriates me.

Here’s the thing:

Who cares if someone’s marriage is against your religion. Marriage is a legal union. There’s separation of church and state. Religion should not dictate laws.

What bothers me is when states pass these laws that they KNOW are unconstitutional. Then, they waste the taxpayers money in courts as lawsuits are filed against the state. Of course, the state will side with itself, so then it gets appealed to the state appeals, who will also side with the state. Then it goes to federal appeals courts, where of course the state will lose. Because it’s UNCONSTITUTIONAL. Which they knew going in.

But who pays for all this? The taxpayers.

This self-righteous, pompous Moore has been around the block. He should know all this. I’m not even a politician nor a judge and I can tell you how this is going to play out.

With him playing a game with his constituents money.

Shanté Wolfe, Tori Sisson

For my other posts relating to same-sex marriage, go here.

My “friend”, W Kamau Bell

w kamau bell1So, he’s not really my friend in real life, in that he doesn’t know he’s my friend. But I’m his friend.

Have you ever liked someone so much that you felt you know them, and feel their pain? I have so much love & respect for W. Kamau Bell, and feel the need to share what happened to him on his birthday.w kamau bell2

I’m such a big fan of his, that when he said he was canceling his tour due to the impending birth of his 2nd daughter, I had nothing but mad respect for him. I mean, how could you not admire a father putting his family first?

 

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Here’s his post about his birthday:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! HAVE SOME RACISM FROM ELMWOOD CAFE!

hate speech vs free speech

There is a new slew of comic book superheros that are women, and of course you know that I love that! One such (newish) superhero is a Muslim teen, born in Jersey City. She is Kamala Khan by day, and morphs into Ms. Marvel when the going gets tough!

Well, in San Francisco, a hate group has bought advertising on public transportation. Anti-Islamic advertising, that likens Islam to the Nazis. I don’t want to show their ads, but I think I must to truly show how despicable they are. But FIRST, let me show you what someone has plastered OVER their ads. Which I THINK ARE AWESOME.

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Now, here’s the thing. Someone at the city of San Francisco (or in the company of the transportation system, I don’t know if it’s a private company or city-owned), sold the advertising space to a known hate group. The Freedom Defense Initiative is considered a hate group, same as the KKK.

I get that the First Amendment is a BFD here in the US. But I never quite got how it supersedes hate groups. Hate groups are ok here in the US; their rights are protected. The Westboro Baptist Church is protected to the extent of the hate they spew at funerals (even of veterans that died so they could have that freedom).

Remember John Galliano? The famous designer? He got in trouble for hate speech in France. Other countries take Hate Speech more seriously. But only certain targets of hate there (from what I can see). I say that because Charlie Hebdo can publish all sorts of filth about religions, and it’s free speech. But France arrested 54 people for expressing their freedom of speech. I guess hate speech is not tolerated in their country, but it depends on what type of hate speech you have, and who it is you’re hating on.

I really don’t want to promote the ad, but I do want you to see how outrageous it is. It’s ridiculous, stupid, outrageous. Comparing to the Nazis? Really? Anyway, since I don’t necessarily want to promote it on my front page, I’m putting it after the jump. The only thing after this is the unadulterated ad.

Oh, go read my post on galliano. For real.

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We choose what we allow

There’s a point to be made about looking at ourselves. What we buy into, as consumers. Whether consumers in the economic sense or consuming of information. The media will deliver what we want. It’s simple supply and demand. That’s why there’s a $5 BILLION zombie industry in the US. An actual industry just for zombies. We buy into fear; that’s why so many news networks have all this fear-mongering. It sickens me.

Charlie Hebdo: Whose Fault Is it? Russell Brand The Trews (E231):

NFL gets a pass

Wait. You’re telling me that an NFL player is benched for a YEAR for having some pot. But the 6’4″, 281 lb NFL player who was slamming his girlfriend against the wall, beating her, choking her, and dragging her across the floor has gotten NO type of condemnation from the NFL?

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But there’s no war on women in this country. No disrespect. No rape culture. Everything’s fine. #EyesWideShut

Tags: NFL, Carolina Panthers, Greg Hardy, Nicole Holder, Josh Gordon, Cleveland Browns.