leaving Detroit


Today was my last day of work in Detroit. I’ve been working as a consultant in downtown Detroit for the last 2 1/2 years. I’ve loved my work, loved the people, and even loved the company too. I’m sad to be leaving; have created friendships of some of my colleagues. Here’s a picture I took on a walk on my work complex one day:

detroit work

But I need to move. It was the city. Detroit had nothing for me. I tried dating… nothing. I’ve tried restaurants, but none appealed to me. I didn’t really have friends that would go to events with me. Maybe 1 out of every 5 events I wanted to attend, I could find someone to go with me. And few events actually came to Detroit.

I needed to move to a city where there were lots of things going on, and I had people who would go with me to events. People who wanted to go out.

I’ve gotten a job in Columbus, and have a week off before I start there. Very excited about the move! I have siblings there. And get this – my best friend from high school and my best friend from college live there! I’ll also be closer to Cleveland, so it’ll be easier to go up there to see my girls! As a foodie, I already know there are lots of restaurants I’m looking forward to exploring.

I’m just very excited about moving back to Ohio. I think I’m going to be very happy there!

Thank the Union!


While as a contractor, I (personally) don’t have all these rights. But that’s by my decision. I’m grateful to be living in a country where unions fought against child labor and for breaks.

I feel like there’s been such a shift over the last few years. Unions used to be such a respected institution. Supported primarily by Republicans. I remember the Republican candidates always doing photo ops with the auto unions & talking about them. Now, it’s like the Republicans spit on them. What in the world happened there?

Unions have given us (Americans) so much. They’ve made employers be fair and hold them accountable. And I’m glad for all the benefits we have today because of them.

Now, what about EQUAL PAY for the ladies!

union benefits

bucket list: see Morrissey


Morrissey marquee

Went to see Morrissey last week in Ohio. Never been so excited to get our melancholy on!

When I bought the tix, I thought I was buying to see Morrissey AND Blondie. I didn’t realize Blondie was only joining him for the NYC show. I also didn’t know that I’d lose pay for going to the show. When I bought the tickets, I was allowed to work remotely. That is, ‘work from home’, so I could go to Ohio, log into work on Monday to work, go to the show Monday night, and drive back to MI Tuesday morning to work 2/3 of the day on site on Tuesday. But a few weeks prior to the concert, they instilled a new policy at work that I couldn’t work from home anymore.

But it was a great time, and it’s another life experience I’m glad I had. And it rained, which seemed fitting.

Morrissey did his ‘meat is murder’ song, with powerful imagery projected behind him. So poignant, that I couldn’t watch most of it, and had to put my hand up to block it. There was a cool video projected during a song about police brutality. I like how aware he is. Even if he’s a narcissist. I feel he cut the show short, maybe because a couple of fans (literally, fans, as they were fanatical) tried to bum-rush the stage/him.

my spirit animal is Ron


Have you ever seen those questions? When you’re looking at lists of possible interview questions, there’s that one: “What is your spirit animal?”

I’ve seen this over the years, and thank God I’ve never been asked it. Because I had no idea what I’d answer.

Until now.

I started working with this guy named Ron*. He’s an older (over 60) man, but not ‘old’. He takes off to go on bike trips across states. He’s gritty. He doesn’t do BS or ‘politics’ (like office politics). He’s quiet, won’t say much. And he’s got this screensaver on his monitor of him with a tiger. I’m pretty sure he’s a republican. He’s one of those ‘salt of the earth’ people.

And he’s my spirit animal.


*names may have been changed to protect the spirit animal.

all the curly-haired girls


I have super curly hair. I think I’ve mentioned that before.

Well, I’ve straightened my hairs for a job interview & for new job. And have been continuing to straighten it for work. The simple truth is that it’s easier in the morning to get ready. For my new job, I have to be up at 6am, & AT WORK around 7:45-8am. I can take a shower in 8 mins flat if my hair is straight (w/ a shower cap); 12 mins tops. Then another 5 mins to style it.

If it’s curly, it takes anywhere from 22 mins (shortest shower time) to 45 mins (not max, but around that) to shower. Then another 15-20 mins to style, and like 3 hours before it’s dry (because I can’t use a hair dryer on curly hair).

I used to start work at 9:30am. I’m at my new job around 7:45-8am everyday.

Hence, it made sense to simply straighten my hair daily.

However, my cousin said something to me that made me think twice about it. She mentioned that she (a curly-haired sister), has 2 curly-haired girls, and they “see” what I do. Whether overtly or if it goes into their subconscious. I don’t want them thinking they need to not be who they are naturally. I want them to love themselves as they are, without wanting to change.aunt neice

It made me remember that what each of us do, no matter how small, is always seen by someone else. I made sure they got how much I loved their natural hair, and how lucky they were to have it. :)

see? it’s not just you


I’ve been really busy. No, really.


See? 104 other requests. No, I haven’t clicked on it to see what they are yet. I’m kinda scared to; I’m kind of a scaredy cat, & fb is always asking me do install some app or another, & Fernie just got over a virus in December that took me hours & hours (& hours!) to clear him of.

I love my job, & I am amazingly good at it. Like, unbelievably good. Like clairvoyance good. & it feels good to be really competent & good at something.

Unfortunately, I haven’t done much else. But my busy time is winding down. So, I’m sure I’ll have something to talk about soon.

Although, I have to say, I see that lil tag cloud down there, & the “complaints/hating” is so big. I have this friend who is just so incredibly bright. I mean bright in both aspects. Like clever/intelligent, but really really bright, like the sun-bright. This gal sees so much positive, & recently it made me notice how negative I can be on stuff.

This is one of the reasons I stopped blogging. B/c I saw how big that particular category in the cloud was getting. I thought “How could I be such a hater?”. So, I w/drew for a while. But then, I thought about why that category in the cloud was so big.

I know that cloud is just going to get bigger, b/c this is my outlet so that I can stay positive on life. I can’t help it that marriage isn’t an equal right. I can’t help it that ppl aren’t getting a fair trial; or that the International Criminal Court is ignoring genocide.

But I will continue to try to help it. So, I know it’s just going to get bigger. B/c I have to talk about that stuff here; or else what? I become Debbie Downer in life? & the more I talk about it here, the more searchable it is for someone else who wants to hear about it. I try to always be informative & offer links to help the cause whenever I complain about something I think it wrong.

But I am back.

does this make me a diva?


The only thing that ever motivates me to do dishes anymore is when I need to soak my fingernails.