bucket list: see Morrissey


Morrissey marquee

Went to see Morrissey last week in Ohio. Never been so excited to get our melancholy on!

When I bought the tix, I thought I was buying to see Morrissey AND Blondie. I didn’t realize Blondie was only joining him for the NYC show. I also didn’t know that I’d lose pay for going to the show. When I bought the tickets, I was allowed to work remotely. That is, ‘work from home’, so I could go to Ohio, log into work on Monday to work, go to the show Monday night, and drive back to MI Tuesday morning to work 2/3 of the day on site on Tuesday. But a few weeks prior to the concert, they instilled a new policy at work that I couldn’t work from home anymore.

But it was a great time, and it’s another life experience I’m glad I had. And it rained, which seemed fitting.

Morrissey did his ‘meat is murder’ song, with powerful imagery projected behind him. So poignant, that I couldn’t watch most of it, and had to put my hand up to block it. There was a cool video projected during a song about police brutality. I like how aware he is. Even if he’s a narcissist. I feel he cut the show short, maybe because a couple of fans (literally, fans, as they were fanatical) tried to bum-rush the stage/him.

my spirit animal is Ron


Have you ever seen those questions? When you’re looking at lists of possible interview questions, there’s that one: “What is your spirit animal?”

I’ve seen this over the years, and thank God I’ve never been asked it. Because I had no idea what I’d answer.

Until now.

I started working with this guy named Ron*. He’s an older (over 60) man, but not ‘old’. He takes off to go on bike trips across states. He’s gritty. He doesn’t do BS or ‘politics’ (like office politics). He’s quiet, won’t say much. And he’s got this screensaver on his monitor of him with a tiger. I’m pretty sure he’s a republican. He’s one of those ‘salt of the earth’ people.

And he’s my spirit animal.


*names may have been changed to protect the spirit animal.

all the curly-haired girls


I have super curly hair. I think I’ve mentioned that before.

Well, I’ve straightened my hairs for a job interview & for new job. And have been continuing to straighten it for work. The simple truth is that it’s easier in the morning to get ready. For my new job, I have to be up at 6am, & AT WORK around 7:45-8am. I can take a shower in 8 mins flat if my hair is straight (w/ a shower cap); 12 mins tops. Then another 5 mins to style it.

If it’s curly, it takes anywhere from 22 mins (shortest shower time) to 45 mins (not max, but around that) to shower. Then another 15-20 mins to style, and like 3 hours before it’s dry (because I can’t use a hair dryer on curly hair).

I used to start work at 9:30am. I’m at my new job around 7:45-8am everyday.

Hence, it made sense to simply straighten my hair daily.

However, my cousin said something to me that made me think twice about it. She mentioned that she (a curly-haired sister), has 2 curly-haired girls, and they “see” what I do. Whether overtly or if it goes into their subconscious. I don’t want them thinking they need to not be who they are naturally. I want them to love themselves as they are, without wanting to change.aunt neice

It made me remember that what each of us do, no matter how small, is always seen by someone else. I made sure they got how much I loved their natural hair, and how lucky they were to have it. :)

see? it’s not just you


I’ve been really busy. No, really.


See? 104 other requests. No, I haven’t clicked on it to see what they are yet. I’m kinda scared to; I’m kind of a scaredy cat, & fb is always asking me do install some app or another, & Fernie just got over a virus in December that took me hours & hours (& hours!) to clear him of.

I love my job, & I am amazingly good at it. Like, unbelievably good. Like clairvoyance good. & it feels good to be really competent & good at something.

Unfortunately, I haven’t done much else. But my busy time is winding down. So, I’m sure I’ll have something to talk about soon.

Although, I have to say, I see that lil tag cloud down there, & the “complaints/hating” is so big. I have this friend who is just so incredibly bright. I mean bright in both aspects. Like clever/intelligent, but really really bright, like the sun-bright. This gal sees so much positive, & recently it made me notice how negative I can be on stuff.

This is one of the reasons I stopped blogging. B/c I saw how big that particular category in the cloud was getting. I thought “How could I be such a hater?”. So, I w/drew for a while. But then, I thought about why that category in the cloud was so big.

I know that cloud is just going to get bigger, b/c this is my outlet so that I can stay positive on life. I can’t help it that marriage isn’t an equal right. I can’t help it that ppl aren’t getting a fair trial; or that the International Criminal Court is ignoring genocide.

But I will continue to try to help it. So, I know it’s just going to get bigger. B/c I have to talk about that stuff here; or else what? I become Debbie Downer in life? & the more I talk about it here, the more searchable it is for someone else who wants to hear about it. I try to always be informative & offer links to help the cause whenever I complain about something I think it wrong.

But I am back.

does this make me a diva?


The only thing that ever motivates me to do dishes anymore is when I need to soak my fingernails.

I’m channeling cantaloupes


Hi everyone. Yes, I’m still here. Sorry I’ve been all absent & stuff. Just a lot going on. I always have 10 days off work from just before Christmas to January 2nd every year, but guess what? This year, I spent much of that time all sick. Yuk.

That’s the worst; well, for me anyway. I’ve told y’all before how I’m super-busy at work from November to March. Like, so crazy busy I have NO time for anything. Well, I look forward all year to that lil break I get at the end of December so that I can have my normal life back, & of course this year, I was all sick for the entire period.

Also, major life-changing news in my life: Mr. T & I broke up. This really is life-changing. We weren’t just bf/gf; we were s’posed to get all married & stuff (this upcoming October). We’d been together for about half-a-decade. That’s a long time to be that close to a person. There really wasn’t anything we didn’t share with each other. So, it’s kinda weird when something happens & the person you normally tell that thing to just isn’t the person you can still tell it to.

Yes, I’m still ending sentences in prepositions. Oh, & talkin about ‘tions, I still haven’t made a New Year’s resolution yet. Although in my defense, I’ve been sayin ‘yo’ more often than I’ve changed my underwear so far this year.

Yeah, I know… it’s hot.

Ok, so what else….? OH- Guess what comes along with a huge break-up? More hot-stuff… zits! Yeah, I’ve gotten one zit after another. And so now, I’ve got myself a binary-zit. That’s when 2 zits decide to orbit around each other. And lucky me, it’s right on my cheek!

I know…. hot.

I put up a pic of a cantaloupe, b/c I know that the FCC would fine me if I put up a pic of my binary zit. It’s about time for them to make an example of someone to keep us in line; & I just don’t have an extra $300,000 lying around, ya know?

So, I was thinking of my whole one zit after another complex I’m going through right now, & I thought of something. You know how everyone likes melons? No, seriously, there’s a melon out there for everyone. I myself LOVE all melon, but I think honeydews my fave. Santa Claus is cool too, but you have to be in the mood for it cause it’s so sweet. But I do love all melon.

Well, I was thinking of pick-up lines from guys (b/c all guys have them, & most are NOT creative). And thinking of melon. And it hit me! Why can’t a guy who loves melons (99.9% of guys) also love zits on chicks?

Like, why won’t a guy come up to me & be all like:

Damn girl! That sexy thing on yo face reminds me of cantaloupe, & I’ve gots ta get me sum cantaloupe! I just wanna lick it!

But nooooo, I’m not hearing that. Weird, huh?

Oh, & this post is dedicated to Jen, who’s been asking me for months to update. Holla!

love me tender, love me true


Ok, I’m gonna tell you guys something. For the last 4 years, I’ve been investigating 2 ppl at my work. You see, 4 years ago, this elderly man who used to do business at my company told me that one of the women here had “kissed” Elvis. Yes, the Elvis.

So, I narrowed it down to 2 women. They were of the right age, & audacity. I mean, these are 2 spunky, outspoken broads*.

I knew that one of them would be leaving sometime in the coming year, so I figured I had a year to figure it out. Yes folks, I had turned this into my very own Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler.

So, today I learn that 3 women at my company are retiring. Two are the initial two suspects, & the 3rd is a new-comer to the race. She had always worked at the company, it’s just that I didn’t know her that well in the beginning. In the last year, I’ve gotten to know her, & she could also have done the deed.

If you guys don’t know, I have this compulsion to need to know things. Things that are interesting, things that are none of my business, just THINGS. I mean, take a look at my sidebar, & how many links I have under “Media Stuff” or “Celeb Stuff”.

So, wish me luck, b/c my detectiving is abouts ta hit overdrive.